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Younger or older sister? My sister is older than me by a few years. (youngest of four)

There both older then me, lol poor little lolita youngest in the family xD

My mother also like it , so she didn't say anthing about it!

Don't you ever, ever feel that way! You do not have to a size 0 to be cute, in Lolita or any other style! Ladies of all sizes are beautiful. Honestly, look up pictures of plus-sized Lolitas and tell me they aren't beautiful! you know they are! And I just bet you are, too.
And by the way, I am not a size 0 either... so I'm not just saying it!

As for myself... I just discovered Lolita so I haven't had the chance to wear anything in the style yet. My mom has never really cared what I am into, though. She helped me dye my hair all sorts of colors growing up. She's let me wear every style of clothing out there, from the time I was a child. She never cared if I wanted piercings. Let me try new hobbies. Even when I looked awful and mismatched, she didn't care, because I was happy, and I wasn't hurting anyone. She even drove me all over Seattle till we found the replica Trinity (from The Matrix) outfit I had been searching for! My mom is a firm believer in the fact that a parent should pick their battles. Some things just aren't big enough to worry about... and that you can turn your child's experimentation with styles and hobbies as great bonding moments. I wish more parents felt that way.
I don't see how anyone could overreact when I start wearing Lolita. After I shocked everyone, converting to Islam out of the blue 5 years ago, changing from dressing like your average teen to wearing modest clothes and Hijab, and getting married at 18, I don't think I could possibly shock any friends or family now.
I did already tell my husband about Lolita and showed my mom photos. My mom loves it, but like I said, she's loved everything I've ever tried. And I know my hubby'll love it... he loves the look of "anime girls", as he says, so I think he'll get a big kick out of it when I start wearing Lolita. I know my Dad will love it, too. He'll probably get a big smile and call me his little girl, lol. My friends are my biggest concern. I might get teased a lot, but I've always been different, so I'm used to it :-) I'm good at comebacks by now, lol.

Cara

@ Human_doll: I fully agree with CaraVSAngel. Being big is NOT a reason to feel bad about yourself or to be afraid of wearing whatever you want. Big girls are much more beautiful than these skinny anorexic photoshopped skeletons fashion and media show us. As long as your health is not in danger, there's no reason to worry about how your body looks.
Looking good is not a matter of size but a matter of feeling good about yourself and knowing what type of clothing fits you. And with that I don't mean, what kind of fashion, but what kind of aspects in clothing, whatever the fashion.
Don't think those tiny girls you get to see in the GLB are perfect: I bet these models all have something about their body they hate too, and those pictures were published after a lot of make-up and photoshopping.
If sizes on online brand shops depress you: they were made for Japanese sizes in the first place, and average Japanese people just happen to be rather small, they differ a lot with Western sizes. I'm a European XS/S and I have a Japanese L/XL, for example.
I apologise for the rant. I just really hate it when people think they're ugly because they don't fit in the stereotype "skinny, big breasts, hairless on certain bodyparts,... (=unnatural, fake)". Girls (or boys, for our ouji's or brolita's), you all are beautiful! Never allow anyone to contradict that!
If I wasn't right to write a rant like this in on an online topic like this, I apologise again.

Yeah, I'm with what they said. My best friend is actually a size 00 naturally and she HATES it! I'm 6-4 while my mom was a 4-2 at my age. It's portant to be healthy. I'm not saying being obese is good, but if you are naturally bigger when you're healthy, there's nothing you can do, and trying to change will make you miserable.

I went on a body bash a year or so ago, but a good friend of mine hit me on the head (literally) ans made me realizeI would never be a small as my mom because I wasn't her. Now I'm exersizing to get in shape and I
at go down a size. But brung smaller is really only a benifit of being healthy in combo with my genes. Nothing more. Andeven though I'm a decent size, I actually have curvy hips, so I'm still not concidered "small" in the fashion biz. But that's fine cause they're all uglier than me and you.

huhuhu.. Same here. My mom appreciates the style but doesn't agree that I should spend a lot on clothes. She said I should be more practical. My dad doesn't appreciate the clothes at all. He said it's only worn in cold countries.

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I can understand that My mom wants me to be practical, I don't really want to look like everyone else. (Although T-shirts and jeans are comfy )

Although I don't understand what your dad means about that Lolita is only worn in cold countries [/quote]


Well, some lolita clothes are required to layering like wearing a JSK with a blouse. Also, he didn't agree much on the long sleeve ones for it is uncomfy to wear specially on hot days. The high-knee length socks is also a no-no for him. Well, in our country the climate is always hot so he came up with the impression that it's only worn on countries that has winter climate and stuff.

My mother's reaction was, "why are you dressing like a 7 year old?!"

My father's reaction, "classy, classy"

But I'm super excited since I get to go the BtSSB store in San Francisco on Monday! :D

My dad giggled
My mum squeezed me calling me Cutie pie
My sister said, That's hot
and my older sister stole my new handbag!

The first time I mentioned it my mum was very 'meh' about it, she didn't seem too bothered. A while after though she asked me about it again and wanted to see some pictures of the style, and now she loves it as much as I do
Sometimes when she's watching old films she'll point out pretty dresses and ask me if I'd wear something like the character is... I think it's cute. There was a film on yesterday and a girl was wearing a white and red sailor pinafore, and she said 'Sure all you'd need is a different skirt and a petticoat and you're away for slates!' I think she's been researching different styles behind my back, but doesn't know the names She's pretty enthusiastic about Lolita, she said that if she was my age now she'd wear it
And she said to wear it with confidence because "while they're all off there clackin' round the town with skirts like belts and tops halfway down their chests you'll be the lady dressed as a young lady should be."
She's the best mum ever